DISCERNMENT COUNSELING

Dallas and Fort Worth

Are you and your partner struggling with:

  • Feeling disconnected from each other

  • Decreased frequency and/or interest in sex

  • Fear that your partner has already checked out

  • Feelings of desperation

  • Worry that you are making things worse

  • Difficulty seeing a future for the relationship

  • Ambivalent feels about the relationship

  • Ambivalent feelings about couples counseling

  • Unsure if you want to continue in the relationship

  • Struggling to decide what’s best

If so, discernment counseling may be for you. Unlike traditional couples counseling, discernment counseling uses specific techniques for each person to determine where they are emotionally in the relationship. your therapist works with you to come to a consensus on if you should stay and work on your relationship or end it. The goal is to gain the clarity needed to judge your marital options and move beyond feeling stuck.

When one person wants to stay and work on the relationship (the leaning in spouse), and the other is not sure or feels like nothing can help (the leaning out spouse)–discernment counseling is the best course of action. With this model, the counselor provides a supportive and safe environment to thoughtfully and objectively consider all options ahead.

What to Expect

  • A safe, non-judgemental environment to examine the history of the relationship and the breakdowns that have evolved to bring you to this point.

  • Careful evaluation of each path forward.

  • Guidance and support through the next phase, whichever path you choose.

Pathways of
Discernment Counseling

  1. Stay the same: Accept the status quo and decide what you want to do later.

  2. Reconcile: Commit to 6 months of intensive couples therapy to renew the relationship.

  3. Divorce or Break Up: Mutually determine that divorce or breaking up is the right option and learn how to do that in the most
    constructive way.